Body + Mind is reader-supported. We may earn an affiliate commission when you buy through some of the links on our site.
Whether you’ve been dating for three months or ten years, there is something to be said for keeping that electric spark alive between you and your sweetheart. Even if you love them more than anything in the world, relationships can sometimes lose their sense of spontaneity with time. This isn’t always a bad thing. Often, it means you’re getting used to one another and you feel safe and comfortable together.
However, if you’re looking to put a bit of effort into keeping the spark between you hot and healthy, there are a few things you can do to keep your relationship exciting. While every couple is different, you can find tips and tricks that work well for you guys as you work to keep each other on your toes — in the healthiest of ways.
Remember that beginning phase of your relationship when you were constantly trying to woo and impress one another? Bring a bit of that back! The thing about a relationship and committing to one another is that you should still be trying to woo them every single day. Make your partner feel special with cute notes, little surprises and sweet text messages. It could brighten their day and inspire the same in them.
Dating is all about dates in the beginning, but dates often turn into casual hang outs and cozy nights in — which can be amazing, but you may still want a reason to try out new spots and show one another off. Date nights allow for that, all while giving you some intentional quality time to spend together. Whether you go out to dinner once a week or plan a hike date for bright and early Sunday mornings, taking that time for one another can remind you of your passion.
No, not like that — yet. Fantasies, goals, dreams and desires can take many different forms, from your career aspirations to your spiritual path. Try to remember the last time you dove deep with your partner and asked them about their wildest hopes and dreams. If you can’t remember, now could be high time for an intimate conversation. You can start by sharing something, or by asking them about where their mind has been recently. Even if all you do is stay up late talking, bearing your souls to one another is a great way to keep learning more about each other and keep the passion flowing, even years down the road.
Now, it’s like that. It’s no secret that as you get more comfortable in your relationship, sex might come a bit less often or feel a bit less spontaneous, and what better to mend that than to simply take it right to the bedroom? Try out something new, take your time with it and share your fantasies with one another — yes, now we’re talking about those kinds of fantasies. Even if you return to your standard repertoire soon after, a little jaunt into uncharted territory might do you both some good.
When you’ve been together for a while, it can sometimes be easy to slip into your routine of sweatpants, topknots and fluffy slippers. Of course, there’s beauty in that. Who wouldn’t want to be comfortable together? But that doesn’t mean you can’t get dolled up every once in a while to impress. Wear an outfit you know your partner loves, do your hair and makeup in their favorite style or simply try out something new entirely. It could bring that wow factor.
Maybe you’re used to the same old routines when it comes to your hobbies and interests together. Why not try something new? Whether it’s something you’ve both been itching to get into for a while or something entirely foreign to both of you, finding a shared interest in something can feel fresh and exciting, and that can translate into your relationship with each other.
Many people can attest that one of the hottest things you can do in a relationship is to watch your partner in their element. If you haven’t done it in a while — or at all — now could be the perfect time to give it a try. Keep an eye on them while they’re working on their art or going for their daily run. Invite them along to watch you do something you love. Seeing one another exploring your passions can light a flame of attraction and admiration.
While every relationship is different, you never need to completely lose that honeymoon spark. Whether you plan a date night together, share your wildest hopes and dreams or watch each other doing what you do best, there are so many ways to keep your relationship exciting and fresh, even after years of being in love.
